Long Live Love


By: Nachum Braverman and Shimon Apisdorf

If ever there were a symbol for true love, the symbol would be Cupid. And just who is this Cupid? Is he an angel? A devil in disguise? Certainly he is adorable as only a baby can be. Plump, squeezable, charming and wonderfully innocent‹except for that bow and arrow in his hands.

But don¹t let that baby face fool you. Behind Cupid¹s comely eyes lies all the formidable power one would expect from a veritable god, which is exactly what Cupid is. Cupid is none other than the son of Mercury, god of commerce, and Venus, goddess of love. Cupid himself is the god of love.

Cupid is a playful god who likes to scamper about shooting tender golden-tipped arrows. His arrows gracefully fly through the air carrying with them the promise of eternal happiness. Once struck, the objects of Cupid¹s aim are overcome by a desire so passionate, and a love so fiery, that they can never be extinguished. No one in the world could be more fortunate than two people shot through the heart with Cupid¹s arrow. The bliss that awaits those who have been so blessed by the god of love is beyond what anyone could ever dream of.

And what does the future hold for this love- struck couple? Certainly there will be long periods of staring dreamily into one another¹s eyes. They will be surrounded by an almost mystical aura‹a glow‹whenever they are together. They will be the best of friends and the best of lovers. They will always be supportive and draw hope, courage and inspiration from one another. Their shared existence will be, in a word, perfect: endlessly fulfilling, impassioned and happy beyond belief.

Alas, perfection is an illusion, and Cupid is a myth (and a very stubborn myth at that). The ancient gods have long been relegated to the dustbins of history, yet this vision of idyllic love is something that many secretly‹and not so secretly‹still search for. There is a part of our culture¹s psyche that refuses to let go of the mythical vision of love that Cupid symbolizes. So we continue to honor it‹in film, art and music; on greeting cards; and in hundreds of romance novels that sell millions of copies every year. So the myth goes on. At one time or another we have all dreamt of being a victim of Cupid¹s arrow, but that¹s a problem‹because as we know, there is no Cupid and there are no potion-tipped enchanted arrows.

But if there is no Cupid, what is there? There is still the very real power of love, even without Cupid; there is the possibility for a deeply fulfilling married life; for a life filled with passion and intimacy. And in real life, these can be achieved‹ if only we would finally put Cupid to rest.

The truth is that Cupid should be seen as Public Enemy Number One. Rather than embracing him, it¹s time we turned on him. Love, dating, marriage, romance and intimacy are vital parts of real people¹s lives in the real world. To stand a chance of experiencing all we want in life, we need to exorcise our myths and fantasies and replace them with real-world wisdom‹wisdom that refuses to deny the heart its dreams and brings the real and the ideal together‹which is what this book is all about.

The Death of Cupid is about reclaiming some of life¹s most essential wisdom. It¹s about how a light from the past can illuminate our present and our future.

The wisdom this book seeks to reclaim and share flows from ancient Jewish texts and perspectives on many of life¹s core issues‹and these are timeless. The issues we will discuss include pain and pleasure, fulfillment and emptiness, the need for introspection, life goals and the forging of character. Of course they also include love, dating, physical intimacy, romance and marriage.

Reprinted from "THE DEATH OF CUPID" - reclaiming the wisdom of love, dating and marriage. By Nachum Braverman and Shimon Apisdorf. Published by Leviathan Press.

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