THE PERFECT WIFE
In this week's Torah portion, Abraham sends his servant Eliezer to Aram Naharaim to find a wife for Isaac. Upon his arrival in the town, Eliezer devises a plan by which he'll be able to find the perfect wife for Isaac.
In this week's Torah portion, Abraham sends his servant Eliezer to Aram Naharaim to find a wife for Isaac. Upon his arrival in the town, Eliezer devises a plan by which he'll be able to find the perfect wife for Isaac. He decides that the first woman to come over to him and offer him and all of his camels water will be the one. Eliezer is looking for a woman who possesses such kindness that she would go out of her way to not only feed a total stranger, but to tend to the needs of his numerous animals as well. From this incident, we see the importance of the characteristic of kindness in a spouse.
King Solomon takes what appears to be a different approach to finding the perfect wife. At the end of the Eishet Chayil ode in which Solomon poetically describes the quintessential Jewish woman, he writes that a woman who is G-d fearing should be praised.
Rabbi Z. S. Suchard, a leading contemporary rabbi in South Africa, explains that in truth, one cannot have kindness without being G-d fearing. By being kind, extending one's hand to help another, one presupposes the fact that there is a G-d who is the ultimate giver of all things. When we give unto others we are merely being Hashem's courier delivering the goods. In order to give, we must first recognize in our heart Hashem's existence and revere Him. Rebecca's kindness in this week's Torah portion proved her to be a G-d fearing individual.
A person once went to his doctor complaining of a pain in his heart. The doctor asked the patient for his hand so that he could check his pulse. The patient protested saying that his hands were fine, it was his heart which ached him. The doctor answered him by saying that from one's hand he could monitor the heart.
Benyamin Cohen, a native Atlantan and alumnus of Yeshiva Atlanta and Georgia State University is editor of Torah from Dixie.
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