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by Benyamin Cohen    
Torah from Dixie Staff Writer    

"He married Rebecca, she became his wife, and he loved her" (Genesis 24.67).



"He married Rebecca, she became his wife, and he loved her" (Genesis 24.67).

What is love? A very interesting thing happens in this week's Torah portion. We are told that Isaac married Rebecca and then he loved her. It seems a bit backwards from what we are used to. Wouldn't it make more sense for Isaac to love Rebecca and then marry her?

Perhaps we could learn a lesson about love from Isaac's actions. In today's society, we say the word "love" so casually. We use the word indiscriminately, making it a meaningless term. Count the number of times you say the word "love" during the course of the day and you will be quite surprised. Phrases like "I just love that outfit" or "I love Chocolate Fudge Twirl ice cream" are heard constantly. But can you really, truly love an inanimate object? Even when we say that we love a person, another human being, do we really love them for the right reasons? Or do we contrive our own definition of love by thinking that I love her because she's beautiful or I love him for his money?

Isaac is reminding us of the true meaning of love. Many times, people fall in love, get married, and the relationship starts to go sour from there. Isaac is teaching us that instead of falling in love, we should be rising in love. A relationship between husband and wife should be a dynamic one. We shouldn't "fall" into our love and watch it fall with us. The verse is telling us that when Isaac got married his love was just beginning. His love for Rebecca grew everyday, knowing no bounds or limitations. His love was real; it did not get stale depending on what Rebecca was wearing or by the situation they were in. It was an everlasting love, one that we should try to emulate.


Benyamin Cohen, a native Atlantan and an alumnus of Yeshiva Atlanta and at Georgia State University, is editor of Torah from Dixie.

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